Sorry to hear of your accident, Steve, but glad you and the wife are ok. Just hope there isn't something that shows up a few days later from the whip lash. That can be very painful.
I had a very similar accident about a year ago. Sitting stopped at a light in my Honda Pilot when a lady rear ended me. Said she was only going about 20 or so, and hadn't seen me. I'm still not sure how you miss a big SUV sitting in front of you! BTW, it totaled her car too, and I had to replace the rear bumper on the Pilot.