I find it interesting that both ladies responded with suspicion, of the intent of the spouse. Distrusting the veracity of the emotion being expressed.
So I would say gentlemen
ignore them except when it would be fatal to do so, such as on Valentines Day, your anniversary, Christmas,
and their birthday, or any other situation when they
might expect your felicitous expression of affection!
Wow I can't believe I wrote all that crap and only mispelled one word, I also used up all my fifty cent words for the month. LOL
I've got my bullet proof helmet and vest on just in case and I'm hiding in my bunker.
Gabby