Cherie, it's good to hear from you again, even though your news was a bit sad. I'm another grandparent that has gone through the same thing, and I encourage you to believe that things will change. My two sons and wives shunned me after I divorced their mother after 13 years of alcoholism. They didn't feel I had done enough and for two years I didn't get to see my 8 grands. Lots and lots of prayers later things changed and we now even get to baby sit the grands, who ALWAYS loved me. It was just the parents who had the problem.
I join all your other friends here in wishing you and Juan a very Happy Thanksgiving, a day when we all have much to be thankful for.
Your friend, John